One time Dr. White met a man that had just quit his job. He
was quite upset. Dr. White asked him what happened, and he said that the
company wanted him to work for 2 weeks before they started paying him. As he
talked further, it was clear that he had misunderstood what was going on. Dr.
White tried to explain to him that it is common for people to work for 2 weeks
or even a month before they get their first paycheck, which pays them for the
work they have done over that first period of time. His response was to say
that he had no intention of working for free for 2 weeks before he was paid. Although
Dr. White tried to reason with him, his world view would not allow him to
handle the new truth in his life. His experience of work was that you get paid
at the end of each day, or at the end of the week. He had never been paid for a
longer period at one time.
Dr. White was extremely sad for him. This was the best job
he ever had, and he quit it because he simply could not understand a new way of
The world of addiction can be like this for some. You
experience a lifetime of things working a certain way, with certain rules, and
requiring certain skills. When you attempt to move out of the world of
addiction you can find that your worldview is no longer an aid to you in
navigating what might feel like a completely new reality. You need to migrate
to a new world view, and transition to a new philosophy of life. You may need
to acquire a new set of skills or revamp your prior knowledge and skills to a
new purpose. You must learn a new set of rules and a new way of acting.
If you make these changes, you will be equipped for long
term sobriety and success in your new life. If you do not make these changes in
your thinking, you will become more and more frustrated and become increasingly
tempted to return to the world you have spent your former life learning about.
A new life needs a new outlook on life, new plans, new values, and a new
purpose. At AIM, we help you develop a new way of thinking and make sure you
are mentally prepared for your life of freedom.